The pressure on women today has pushed many American mothers to the breaking point. It feels as if "doing your best" is never enough to please everyone, and the demands mothers place on themselves are both impossible and unrealistic. Now Meg Meeker, M.D., critically acclaimed author of Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters, puts her twenty-five years' experience as a practicing pediatrician and counselor into a sound, sane approach to reshaping the frustrating, exhausting lives of so many moms. nbsp; Mothers are expected to do it all: raise superstar kids, look great, make good salaries, volunteer for everything, run errands, keep a perfect house, be the perfect wife. Single mothers often have even more demands--and less support. In this rallying cry for change, Dr. Meeker incorporates clinical data and her own experience raising four children to show why mothers suffer from the rising pressure to excel and the toll it takes on their emotional, physical, mental, and spiritual health. Too many mothers are increasingly lonely, anxious, depressed, and unhappy with themselves, refusing to let themselves off the hook. Here, Dr. Meeker has identified the 10 most positive habits of mothers who are healthy, happy, and fulfilled. The key is to embrace a new perspective and create real joy and purpose by utilizing such core habits as nbsp; * making friends with those who know the meaning of friendship * finding out what money can buy (and what it cannot) * lightening the overload--and doing less more often * discovering faith and learning how to trust it * taking some alone time and reviving yourself nbsp; Mothers, it's time to view the unconditional trust that you see in your children's eyes when they take your hand or find your face in a crowd as a mirror of your own wonder and worth. You are the light that shines in their lives, the beacon that guides them. By implementing the key strategies in Dr. Meeker's book, you can be happy, hopeful, and a wonderful role model. You can teach your children to be the very best they can be--and isn't that still the most precious reward of motherhood?
TABLE OF CONTENTS
|Habit #1||Understand Your Value as a Mother||p. 3|
|Habit #2||Maintain Key Friendships||p. 23|
|Habit #3||Value and Practice Faith||p. 44|
|Habit #4||Say No to Competition||p. 67|
|Habit #5||Create a Healthier Relationship with Money||p. 91|
|Habit #6||Make Time for Solitude||p. 109|
|Habit #7||Give and Get Love in Healthy Ways||p. 128|
|Habit #8||Find Ways to Live Simply||p. 149|
|Habit #9||Let Go of Fear||p. 175|
|Habit #10||Hope Is a Decision-So Make It!||p. 197|
The author of Strong Fathers, Stronger Daughters (2006) now looks at mothers who seem to handle the demands of parenting, work, and home with greater happiness. Using her own personal experiences and those of her friends and women she has come across in her travels, Meeker outlines the 10 habits that fulfilled mothers share, which include maintaining important friendships, eschewing competition, practicing faith, and living more simply. Though Meeker is a medical doctor, a pediatrician, she doesn't delve much into medical research about happiness or depression but rather relies on the anecdotal evidence she's accumulated. While parenting books abound, few focus on the mother's well-being, so Meeker's book will be welcomed. Her traditional view of family and gender roles may be off-putting to some readers, but Meeker is a popular speaker and radio guest, whom many readers will know and trust.--Walker, Aleksandra Copyright 2010 Booklist
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Publisher's Weekly Review
Arguing that many moms have gone overboard in their quest for perfection, the Michigan-based pediatrician and mother of four presents 10 "new habits" that will help moms maintain their passion, purpose, and sanity. In separate chapters, Meeker addresses understanding your value as a mother, maintaining key friendships, valuing and practicing faith, saying no to competition, creating a healthier relationship with money, making time for solitude, giving and getting love in healthy ways, finding ways to live simply, letting go of fear, and embracing hope. Meeker urges mothers to dig deep to find their life's purpose, rejecting cute but superficial one-liners such as "I'm here to drive my kids around." Though she claims to be "a scientist at heart," Meeker, a Christian, waxes philosophical on many issues, including the importance of faith and spirituality. She also urges moms to seek solitude and live more simply while rejecting such "toxic" cultural messages as being thinner, looking hot, and making more money. Readers in search of tips on how to help their kids excel won't find them here; this is a sincere and thoughtful discussion of what really matters in a mother's life. (Mar.) (c) Copyright PWxyz, LLC. All rights reserved.
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Meg Meeker, M.D., is the author of Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters and Boys Should Be Boys. She has been a physician practicing pediatric and adolescent medicine, working with children and their parents, for twenty-five years. Dr. Meeker is the mother of four children, and lives with her husband in northern Michigan.